I saw something the other day that was just what I needed to see. It was simple, but encouraging. Being a mom is the best and the hardest and intimidating and wonderful all at the same time.
This Friday I’m gathering my top five things to say to a mom. Or not say. You’ll get the idea.
The best thing to say to another mom who is telling you a horror story about their kid, just say: “I feel ya, sister.” Most of the time a mom just wants to let it out.
You’re a great mom.
I don’t think moms here this one enough! Tell your friends who are moms, tell someone you just met, tell the lady sitting next to you at the restaurant having trouble taming their crew. You got this, momma. You’re doing a great job.
Maybe you should…
Giving advice isn’t always helpful. If a friend of yours is struggling with getting their baby to sleep, validate them- tell her it IS hard to get a baby to sleep, and ask her how she is holding up. Don’t jump in immediately with, “Well, have you tried the Baby Wise method?” or “You must be doing it wrong. Try letting them cry for a while.”
Don’t ask, just do it!
If you’re close enough to you momma friends, don’t even ask- just step in and help! Your momma friend is having a hard time juggling a stroller, a screaming toddler, and drops her diaper bag? Jump in- lend a hand. Give a smile.
You’re visiting your momma friend’s house and she hasn’t showered in a few days? Offer to watch her kids while she takes a shower. It’s the little things.
Every baby is different.
You are the expert on your own child. Each baby is so different, that one size doesn’t fit all when it comes to eating, sleeping, growing, developing. You know your baby best, so stick up for what you think works for him.
Happy Friday! Linking up with High Five for Friday.